During our lifetime, there are so many times we got hurt, no matter others are intentionally or unintentionally hurt us, it is a hurt, at that moment, we feel we are a victim, as we got hurt from others.
Those hurt could be factual, those hurt could even be physical hurt, but no matter it is a physical hurt or even a mental hurt, it is really important for us to be able to embrace our hurt.
We embrace our hurt through forgiveness, before we talk about forgive the ones who had hurt us, we first need to forgive ourselves, this might sounds like quite strange, as we are the one being hurt, why we need to forgive ourselves first.
We embrace our hurt through forgiveness, before we talk about forgive the ones who had hurt us, we first need to forgive ourselves, this might sounds like quite strange, as we are the one being hurt, why we need to forgive ourselves first.
Everyone might have their unique kind of emotion arise in this hurt, it is fine to have all these emotions arise, but on the other hand, it is also important for us not to engage too deep into any kind of these emotions arise.
We forgive how we engage in these emotions, before we try to forgive others, it is not a must for us to forgive others, if we feel we could not forgive, it is fine, but to embrace this hurt we must first forgive ourselves.
After this self forgiveness, we can then try to detach from all sorts of emotions arise from this hurt, these emotions could be very intense and very complex, but no matter what they are, we all have this ability to detach from these emotions.
It really could takes time before we could detach our emotions, it depends on the incident and how much we are attach to these emotions, it is fine, allow ourselves to have all these emotions, but on the other hand when we allow these emotions express itself, it is time to detach from them.
We are never emotion itself, we always have this choice to choose how we would like to experience, this includes the time we are hurt, even we feel hurt, we still can choose how we deal with it, it is not necessary for us to keep ourselves in any kind of negative emotions.
When we can detach from all these emotions, we then will understand we always have a choice to choose how we react on any incident happened, it really doesn’t mean we have to forgive those who hurt us, it is great for us to forgive as well, but we only do so when we feel we could, it is not a must.
Even we might not be able to forgive those who hurt us, it doesn’t mean we have not embrace this hurt, and in time when we keep on detaching from emotions arise due to this hurt, we might find it easier to forgive others as well, forgive others is another way to release ourselves.
Give ourselves time, and even allow ourselves not able to forgive others, until we could really let go this incident, it is good to forgive others who hurt us, but we never force ourselves to do, and never blame ourselves for not able to do so as well.
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